What We Work On Together

Common Questions

 

How do I know what kind of therapy I need?

 

More than the specific approach, what tends to matter most is the relationship between you and your therapist. It is vital that the space feels safe, you feel genuinely understood,  and that the way your counsellor thinks about people and problems fits with how you see the world. That is the foundation everything else is built on.

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Beyond that, different approaches appeal to different people and suit different ways of engaging with the challenges being addressed.

 

Some people find that structured, skills-focused approaches like CBT, DBT, or ACT give them exactly what they need: practical tools, clear frameworks, and support with managing difficult thoughts, emotions, and behaviours.

 

Others find that they want to go deeper than symptom management, to understand the emotional patterns and relational experiences underneath. That's where emotionally-focused therapy (EFT) tends to live.

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What matters is a sense that the approach fits what you're actually looking for, and that the person offering it feels like someone you could trust with what you're carrying.

 

The consultation is a chance to talk about what's been happening and figure out together what kind of support would actually help and what your goals are.

 

Can you help with more than one thing at a time?

 

Yes, most people bring more than the one thing they think they come to counselling for. Burnout and neurodivergence often arrive together, while people-pleasing and relationship patterns are frequently connected. Grief exists under many of the challenges clients experience.

 

The work doesn't require you to choose one concern and set the rest aside. We follow what's most alive for you and typically the threads are connected.

 

Do you work with people who have never tried therapy before?

 

Yes. Many of the people I work with are coming to therapy for the first time. There's no prior experience required and no assumption that you already know how this works.

 

The first session is as much about answering your questions and getting a feel for the process as it is about anything else. If you're unsure what to expect, that's a completely reasonable place to start

 

What makes emotionally-focused therapy (EFT) different from other approaches?

 

EFT works with the emotional patterns underneath what's going wrong, not just the thoughts or behaviours on the surface.

 

Rather than teaching coping strategies or reframing how you think, EFT helps you understand what your emotions are actually pointing toward, the unmet needs and attachment patterns driving your experience.

 

The goal is not to manage feelings more effectively. It's to understand what they're trying to tell you.

 

What if I've tried therapy before and it didn't help?

 

That's more common than you might think, and it's worth bringing to the consultation.

 

Therapy not working is often about fit, approach, or timing rather than anything about you or the counsellor.

 

If a previous experience felt surface-level, too structured, or like you were going through the motions without anything actually shifting, that's useful information about what you're looking for and what kind of space might suit you better.​